Family & Friends Support

Created: January 2014 Last Update: January 2014 Last Reviewed: September 2015


A Partner's Story

I am what I am, but what am I?

Article appeared in Polare 28, December 1998

Jane has been an out Lesbian for over twenty years and involved in a monogamous relationship for over ten. She thought that she had seen it all until her then-lover informed her that she had always wanted to be a man. She shares her experiences in this article ... [ Continue Reading ]

Like it or Not, She's Still Dad

A Wife, a Family, a Town Accept a Man's Transition

Article appeared in Polare 66, January 2006

On a hot Saturday night last June, Don Brunner arrived home with his wife and took off the last suit and tie he'd ever wear. The next morning, the New Milford plumber glanced one last time in the mirror - still very much a father and husband, but no longer a man. This is a story about a family that could have spun apart, but instead pulled together ... [ Continue Reading ]


Parenting Sideways

My Children Have Accepted This Journey Better Than Anyone Else

Article appeared in Polare 86, January 2011

Jayke is transgender, female to male, gender-queer and bisexual. His thirteen-year-old son and four-year-old daughter have accepted his transition better than anyone. They are able to see the joy, confidence and contentedness he has found in being truly his whole self ... [ Continue Reading ]

He's My Daughter

A Mother's Journey to Self-Acceptance

Article appeared in Polare 60, November 2004

He's My Daughter by Lynda Langley shows that some parents and families do stay together, through all the perils of transition and more. Written by the mother of a transsexual woman in Australia, it poignantly presents a mother's tale of her son's transition ... [ Continue Reading ]

A Father Writes, A Mother Writes

Two Different Experiences

Article appeared in Polare 24, April 1998

Pat is the father of a female-to-male adult child, and Lisa is the male-to-female transsexual parent of two young boys. Both have had to deal with challenging issues in their lives and both express a rewarding experience as they deal with their loved ones ... [ Continue Reading ]


The Impact on Children

... of a Cross-Dressing or Transgender Parent

Article appeared in Polare 33, October 1999

How do gender identity issues affect juvenile and adult children of transgender people? How does one deal with the attitudes of others who disagree with telling young children? This article addresses those questions and some of the debate associated with this issue ... [ Continue Reading ]

My Dad's a Woman

Gareth's Experiences as a Child with a Trans Parent

Article appeared in Polare 42, October 2001

When Gareth was six years old, he realised that his father wore women's clothing. He says that it's a wonder he hadn't twigged before that his father would come home from work dressed as a man and suddenly mum would announce "Auntie Diane's coming for tea" ... [ Continue Reading ]

Tell Them I'm a Boy

From the Book - Transforming Families: Real Stories About Transgendered Loved Ones

Article appeared in Polare 30, April 1999

Steve just turned eleven. His life revolves around rocketry, soccer, and improvising stand-up comedy routines in the kitchen. His parents are concerned about the changes puberty will bring, because they know how distressed he will be when breasts begin to develop ... [ Continue Reading ]

My Wife was a Victim Too!

Her Dreams, Her Expectations, Her Desires are in Tatters

Article appeared in Polare 46, June 2002

We've all talked about the initial reactions to our disclosures about our gender issues, but there is so much more to it than that. Kim's partner has been through hell with all of this. She formulated dreams of her own that were not for her so much as for her and Kim ... [ Continue Reading ]

Transgendered Family Values

Jess' Mum is F.T.M. and Her Step-Mother is M.T.F.

Article appeared in Polare 40, December 2000

Jess is fifteen years-old and lives with her Mum and Step mum. Her mum is an F.T.M. and her step-mother is M.T.F. She's lived around transsexual people since she was seven and so she knows the community very well ... [ Continue Reading ]


My Son

The Pink Boy

Article appeared in Polare 87, April 2011

Sarah Hoffman is the mother of a pink boy. She writes and blogs about gender non-conformity and in this article she writes that as social acceptance of gay people grows, it's time to look critically at the disapproval of things we once thought were precursors to gayness ... [ Continue Reading ]

Trans People in Love

A Project Seven Years in the Making

Article appeared in Polare 77, October 2008

Trans People in Love is a remarkable book that started with a pilot study of trans people and their partners. The final result reflects the care with which Katrina Fox and Tracie O'Keefe chose their subjects and the creativity with which they collected their material ... [ Continue Reading ]

The Gift of Transition on Your Child

Transition has in it Much Wisdom that Deserves Acknowledgement

Article appeared in Polare 86, January 2011

Being part of your child's life, interacting with the staff at your child's school, the management of their sports teams and other domains can present unique challenges for the transgender parent if a child encounters transphobia because of the fixed gender ideals others hold ... [ Continue Reading ]


Testimonial From a Partner of an F.T.M.

Valuable Lessons of Love and Happiness

Article appeared in Polare 20, August 1997

Inspired to share her valuable lessons about love and happiness, this is the story of Kas' F.T.M. journey through his lesbian partner's eyes. Kas told her of his intentions early on, but she still had trouble contemplating a future and wrestled with her own sexuality ... [ Continue Reading ]

Work, Love and Play

Sex and Gender Diverse Couples Share Their Relationship Experiences

Article appeared in Polare 65, October 2005

This study involved sex and gender diverse couples that were asked about the coping and managing strategies that help them have relationships. The Analysis revealed areas in which psychotherapists can help those individuals and couples sustain loving relationships ... [ Continue Reading ]


Coming-Out Transgender in Same-Sex Relationships

Stories of Heartache and Triumph, Confusion and Clarification, Finding Identities and Transcending Labels

Article appeared in Polare 71, April 2007

What happens when people in a same-sex relationship come out as transgender? The people involved in this article express their, and their partner's stories of stories of heartache and triumph, confusion and clarification, finding identities and transcending labels ... [ Continue Reading ]

Your Teenager, Gender Reassignment and You

What happens when You Embark on Gender Reassignment Surgery?

Article appeared in Polare 4, August 1994

Okay you've been living in your desired gender for about a year or more, taking the necessary hormones, you have a child who says they've always loved you and accept what it is that you're doing, but what really happens when you embark on gender reassignment surgery ... [ Continue Reading ]


A Daughter's Perspective

Adjusting and Adapting to a Parent's Transition

Article appeared in Polare 1, September 1993

As a 17 year old female who is travelling through puberty, when I was first informed of my parent's decision to change gender from female to male, I was devastated and shocked. It's an extraordinary step to take, yet I personally find it confusing and difficult ... [ Continue Reading ]

Be Who You Are

Written to Open Minds and Hearts to the Concept of Children who do Not Identify with Their Birth Gender

Article appeared in Polare 92, July 2002

Aneed has always existed for a book about transgender children, written and illustrated realistically but with both passion and compassion. Katherine Cummings reviews Be Who You Are by Jennifer Carr ... [ Continue Reading ]

The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

But Mostly the Good

Article appeared in Polare 71, April 2007

Kevin and his partner spent four years as a lesbian couple even having a commitment ceremony. After the ceremony, Kevin told his partner that he wanted to transition, and thus began the journey that led to this interview with his partner ... [ Continue Reading ]


Concerned about your Child's Gender Behaviour?

Information to Support Parents of Gender Diverse Children

Article appeared in Polare 55, January 2004

Gender-variance and gender non-conformity refer to interests and behaviours that are outside typical cultural norms for each of the genders. Children with gender-variant traits have strong and persistent behaviours that are typically associated with the other sex ... [ Continue Reading ]


Not My Child

Disowning and Other Abuses of Transchildren

Article appeared in Polare 35, February 2000

The saying that parents always love their children is not always true. G.L.B.T. children are regularly disowned and the city streets are filled with them. They are the children who were caught dressing up at young ages and had their love and emotional support withdrawn ... [ Continue Reading ]

Why Are We All Victims?

Is There Any Hope for Partners who Don't Want to Storm Out of their Relationships?

Article appeared in Polare 47, August 2002

When her husband told her of his inner-turmoil, Meaghan was totally rocked. What would happen? Will the children cope? She didn't want to lose her husband and felt very alone. She just needed somebody to talk to, but who? ... [ Continue Reading ]

Observations

Ramblings of a Scared Middle-Aged Transsexual

Article appeared in Polare 6, February 1995

Although this article is called "Observations", Rachael admits it would have been more accurate to call it "Ramblings of a Scared Middle Aged Transsexual". A month before her reassignment operation, Rachael writes of her transition and how her family have disowned her ... [ Continue Reading ]

Lovegonwrong

If it Goes Wrong ... It Wasn't Love!

Article appeared in Polare 49, December 2002

When gender becomes fluid, the path to true love becomes slippery. There is an assumption that love will go wrong if or when the gender identity or expression of one partner challenges the expectations that the other partner has of themselves and their partner ... [ Continue Reading ]

I'm Trans-Gendering

But Does Anyone Really Care about the Emotional State or Needs of Our Partners?

Article appeared in Polare 1, September 1993

Mood swings, increases in libido and self-obsession are but a few of the issues we confront in transition as female to male transgender people, but who cares about our partners and their needs? Does anyone really care about the emotional state or needs of our partners? ... [ Continue Reading ]

The Gender Centre is committed to developing and providing services and activities, which enhance the ability of people with gender issues to make informed choices. We offer a wide range of services to people with gender issues, their partners, family members and friends in New South Wales. We are an accommodation service and also act as an education, support, training and referral resource centre to other organisations and service providers. The Gender Centre is committed to educating the public and service providers about the needs of people with gender issues. We specifically aim to provide a high quality service, which acknowledges human rights and ensures respect and confidentiality.

The Gender Centre is committed to developing and providing services and activities, which enhance the ability of people with gender issues to make informed choices. We offer a wide range of services to people with gender issues, their partners, family members and friends in New South Wales. We are an accommodation service and also act as an education, support, training and referral resource centre to other organisations and service providers. The Gender Centre is committed to educating the public and service providers about the needs of people with gender issues. We specifically aim to provide a high quality service, which acknowledges human rights and ensures respect and confidentiality.

Parents of Transgender & Gender Diverse Youth Support Group

The parents support group meets on the second Monday of each month from 6:00pm at the Gender Centre, 41-43 Parramatta Road, Annandale.

All parents of transgender and gender questioning youth are invited to come and be part of these discussion nights.

Providing a safe, supporting space for parents to connect with others. Contact the Gender Centre on (02) 9519 7599 for more information.

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